The trip to Scottsdale, Arizona over the New Year was wonderful. The weather was perfect. Andrew and I did a lot of relaxing, while at the same time having fun going around to the spa and taking a drive out to see my grandmother and her boyfriend in Tucson. We had good news to bring them because on New Year’s Eve, Andrew asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes, and after a few tears things were perfect. Well that Sunday we went to tell my parents about the engagement and they seemed excited but somewhat tense, I would find out why later.
Work has been going well and I’m getting used to the full time position and I had a week of buffer before this week when school started so even though it was slow, it helped me get used to pulling forty hours. No big deal, at least not until Wednesday when my mother called and told me that she was divorcing my father and would be moving out on Friday. I flipped out. Not on the phone with her, but inside, I was totally freaking out. I still am.
Needless to say Friday was a tense day. My father didn’t know about the divorce yet so I was to tell my brother and keep him and me out of the situation for a while. We went to see a movie, I honestly don’t remember which one we went to see, then we moved mom out of the house after dad had left for work. I had been preparing for the worst, and hoping for the best, but nobody got hurt or did anything stupid, so I was relieved about that. At the same time, though, I ended up staying up with mom and moving until about 3:30 in the morning on Saturday morning. I was supposed to come in and work on Sunday but decided there was no way that was going to happen.
Since then, mom has decided to reconsider marriage counseling. She and my father are still going to live apart for a while, but they’ll go to counseling to see if they can save the marriage. For my brother’s sake, and for their own happiness I wish them the best either way.
I am trying on wedding dresses on Sunday and Andrew and I bought a sleep number bed (hopefully I’ll finally be able to sleep), so I guess that other than drama, life is perfect right now. I just hope my brother is doing okay with everything. In some ways, I tend to think I’m the stronger of the two of us, but I really think he had me beat in this instance, not that it’s a competition. I guess I do sometimes need a shoulder to lean on as much as him.
